I love it when ...

Just got home from a Nonviolent Communication practice group meeting, where I found being prompted with the stem "I love it when ..." to be a helpful way of getting connected to a feeling of having my nervous system say ahhh, to taking a deep breath, and to thinking about what I want.

Celebrating life
Seeing the beauty in all of life
That's what I was able to come away with when I left the practice group.

I want this.

Positive reinforcement

Seems like just like not getting hooked by negative stuff and letting anxiety run the show with negative stuff, similarly, there's also the possibility of getting hooked by positive stuff.

I guess it's about what keeps me in the game vs. what takes me out of the game. Maybe that's the answer I have to this question.

I guess the other answer I have to this question is that if the positive thing involves avoiding/escaping/getting rid of anxiety, then that'll keep me stuck with making my bully stronger and will tend to reinforce that anxiety is something that I can't handle...and such...

Fall in love

Fall in love with living
Fall in love with life

Fall in love with being with myself
Fall in love with uncertainty

Fall in love with the messy real-ness of life and let go of the unattainable Pema Chodron's hell way of going about trying to get more comfortable that only leads me to be constantly futzing with things to getting them the way I think I want them

Relax into stillness
Be curious about what pulls you out of stillness